How to be a swinger and not be jealous?

Heres the deal. My wife and I have been married for 6 years. She's a beuatiful woman. Lately,we've been talking about fantasies and whatnot and both of our fantasies are watching each other with different sex partners. So,we decided to try our hand at swinging.





We havent done it yet. But my wife has some pretty hot friends that are interested in doing it,but I'm afraid that I'll get jealous if I see another man with my wife.





I guess this question is for ';swingers only';How to be a swinger and not be jealous?
If you're afraid you'll get jealous, it's probably because you will get jealous, which will be very difficult to deal with. And once you do it you can't take it back, it'll be something that you'll always remember.





Are you sure your fantasy is to watch her with someone else? I would think someone who wants to watch his wife have sex with someone else would get turned on by it rather than jealous. You owe it to yourself to figure this out before you do anything and open a door that can't be closed.How to be a swinger and not be jealous?
Set boundaries before you full fill this fantasy-communication is key! If you know you will get jealous-ask your wife about just doing a threesome with another woman. You say it is a fantasy of yours too but really if you can't handle it -then keep it as a fantasy. If you want to see her with someone else maybe you could handle watching her do other acts with him such as oral but not penetration?If you have ANY hesitance I would strongly recommend holding off on this fantasy as it will only cause resentment. You have to be able to handle it emotionally in order for it to be as great as it can be.
It seems that you are afraid of her to be emotionally attached to another guy. In this case wife swap and MFM option are not for you.


Try swinger club for start. Please do not forget that jealousy is common among swingers and poly. So prepare yourself for rough times.


Also communication and ground rules between you and your wife are essential.
First off if you go with the ';hot friends'; you are a good case for divorce. Absolutely what you need to do is find a good swingers club, one that has an orientation session and ask questions. Then go to a party. The biggest surprize you will have is your own lack of reaction. Then if the mood hits have fun. You will be surprized at your lack of jealousy.
All I know is you should take a week to enjoy the final days of your marriage because this is the beginning of the end for you two. I can't believe what our society is coming to! Now its not just cheating but cheat wit hthe other one watching? Sick.
Ur best bet is 2 do it n different rooms dats what me n my wife do. cuz i started 2 get jealous a lil. N jt mak sure dude wears a rubber. N if u dnt thnk u can tak it dnt do it ur wife is more important thn a nut.
You have to be very confident to swing. If you even think you might get jealous, don't do it. Being swingers is not for everyone.
Dont do it then. Because you obviously cant handle it and you dont want to do that to your marriage.
The question you need to consider is, ';how long do you want to be married to this woman?';
';when in doubt, go without';. fantasies fade, your marriage is supposed to be for a lifetime!
Realize that jealousy is nothing but insecurity. It's the fear that you do not have value to your partner and that someone else could be preferred over yourself.





Well the truth is that chances are she's going to have good sex with another guy. But, she's not married to you just because you're good sex. In fact, unless she was a virgin when you met she's had good, and even great sex with someone else. But good sex was not enough for her to make a commitment to them like marriage. You are the whole package: great sex, great companionship, best friend, someone who sees her at her worst physically and emotionally, someone who knows all her deep dark secrets and you still love her.





No other man has been, or can be that to her. That is why she is married to you and not someone else.





Fact is, there are 3 billion men on this planet, and I'd bet at more than a few of them could rock her world. But they are not you. Sex with you is on a whole other level than sex with other men could be. It's physical AND emotional at the same time. With other guys it's just getting off. Kind of like a sex toy, but the sex toy is live.





I hope that helps a little. You'll find this subject chatted about quite often on The Swinger Board forums. I recommend you and your wife spend some time reading the good advice from successful swingers on there.
Trust me this is a very open thing to do. I would talk and see if your on the same page. All I can say is how does it really make you feel,once done you can't take it back. a lot of people have open marriages and enjoy it. But you both HAVE to be on the same page because if you open up your marriage that's what you have. AN OPEN MARRIAGE. Good and bad can come from it. Just be sure that's what you both want.