How do you deal with a wife that has no need for intimacy?

I'm not talking about sex. Just things like hugs kisses and just...intimacy. We have been married for thirteen years, and have two children who are both preteens. I used to love the fact that she was not too needy. I still love the fact that she is very independent. I however am a hopeless romantic. Any ideas?How do you deal with a wife that has no need for intimacy?
Plan a weekend somewhere romantic - a couples weekend at a spa, a beach house, something that you will enjoy. Get a sitter for the kids and go.





Tell her exactly what you wrote - that you are a hopeless romantic and want more closesness, that you love her, that you are glad she's your woman, that you are glad to be her man. (I like to avoid the word intimacy. It is loaded with meanings at this point in time and can sound accusatory.)





If it doesn't go well, make an appointment with a marriage counselor and start working though it. Do it soon, please, before you drift too far apart to fix it.How do you deal with a wife that has no need for intimacy?
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well maybe try romancing her a little and tell her that you still love her as much as you did when you got together. if she still backs away you might have problem with her cheating on you but before going that route see whats going on with her maybe she wants the same and you need to express it more to her
She doesn't seem to be as in to you as you are her. Have you discussed this with her? Maybe she is looking at her life and wondering where to go from here. You should go on a vacation or something together without the kiddies and rekindle the flame. Just be sure you aren't inadvertently pushing her away by being accusatory as to why she may act this way.
Just leave her alone.
There's a support group for this:





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You may need to be the one to initiate the kisses and hugs for now. She is used to the way things have been for all these years and you cant expect her to just change overnight. Shower her with affection for a while and before you know it, she will be the one hugging and kissing on you. It's contagious, when you get used to all those hugs and kisses you realize how nice it feels and how good it makes you feel.
let her know how you feel
Just from experience but has she ever been in her past sexually abused by someone or touched inappropriately in her past. That could be the problem OR maybe you have been together so long she is comfortable in your relationship. Try to rekindle the flam or the other maybe something to ask her about if you don't know.
you are perfectly fine. dont judge your relationship by those so called romanticism and fantacies. feel proud of yourself, of yourwife ,of your children. just consider yourself as the happiest man in this world. extra intimacy , artificial romance would give you only false hopes.
Same problem, but at least she gets down to business when the time is right. So, even though I am the hopeless romantic one I just keep it in perspective. I have a great life otherwise and just count my blessing. Besides, it comes with the benefit of not having to jump through a bunch of romantic hoops to get some loving.
Sounds like its time for date night. Shuttle the kids off to grandma's house and just take off. Once a month is usually pretty good, and just go and get some dinner and have some alone time where you can hold hands and sit in a movie theatre and snuggle a little.





It also doesn't hurt to just stomp right up to her and say, 'Gimme a HUG!'
Maybe you need to start romancing her all over again. Help out around the house when she least expects it. Women love that!
if she has always been that way she is not gonna change, but sit down with her and just tell her you would like alittle more affection. maybe w/ the kids being older you two can have a date night, my husband and I love date night. good luck
That's strange. Usually its the other way around.

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