They were seperated bit loving together 5 years before we met. They have 3 kids. We've been together 2 years and married one. She keeps telling her kids she wants him back. She left him. I love him but am insane over 700 plus days of this. He is a ';nice'; guy. I can't take this,How to deal with ex wife wanting my husband back?
well you need to talk to your husband a nd if he serous about this marriage he need to tell the children there mum a great mum but she not going to be his wife again and he happy with you
then he needs to tell his ex wife this has to stop or he not be able to be friends with her
He should never meet her on his own while she behaving like this
Some women do not want the man, but they do not want someone else to have him either
You need to act around her as if you think it not a issue for if she think your worried she play on this to split you up
At the end of the day if your husband really loves you he want to resolve this and fastHow to deal with ex wife wanting my husband back?
Your husband should be going out of his way to make sure this isn't YOUR problem. He should be the one to confront her and set her straight that he's happily married and wants her to stop telling the kids that she wants him back. Not only is this disrespectful to both him and you, but it can be very confusing and possibly emotionally traumatizing to the kids.
Ultimately there's nothing you can do about how she feels and you can't stop her from telling her kids that she wants their dad back. But your husband needs to try and talk some sense into her and remind her that he isn't interested and doesn't care that she wants him back...she left him and now she has to live with that decision.
Unfortunately this is the baggage you got when you married a divorced man with 3 kids and a crazy ex-wife. I'm in the same situation except my husband only has 1 child. His ex-wife has been hard to deal with at times and I have to constantly remind myself that he comes home to me at night, not her and that's all that matters. I've actually made friends with his ex in an attempt to make my life and my husbands life a little easier. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer...this is true!
Start trying to see your life without him.
My wife's ex wants her back, and she entertains the thought because she is upset that he has a new woman in his life.
And I think she gave a bootie call to him at least once since we've been married, and I still cant get over the thought.
Take my advise after thirteen years of marriage, don't settle for anything but someone that will put you first in his life.
Its not much YOU can do. This is for your husband to handle. If he loves and respects you he'll draw whatever lines need to be drawn and then it doesn't really make a difference what the EX wants. The EX is pretty immature to involve her kids in it, but it happens. My husbands ex (never married to her but longest relationship he ever had) has a way of popping up but after initial jealousy I realize he can be trusted and she's a joke...2 years later she's still worried about a man that has moved on? Trust your husband and realize the EX may want him but your HUSBAND is YOUR husband.
it would seem there is little you can do, you cant stop her thinking or saying what she does,
and if your husband is a nice guy, i can only guess you don't want to change him either,
just hope she somehow finds some happiness of her own, i guess.
its tough,but i guess all you can do is be Patient.
good luck
What is his take on all this. You will need his help to keep the parasite, sorry I meant ex-wife away. My husband's ex-wife left him for a better life as she put it. That life never came for her but it did come for him and now she would love to have him back too. Glad he is not entertaining going pack but he did entertain a booty call. You both have to be strong and put an impenetrable fence around your marriage to keep her out.
Tell him that this is a problem for you and ask that he speak to his ex. He can gently explain to her that he is married, in love with his wife, and happy and that while he wishes her well he wil never be coming back and that she needs to move on and find happiness of her own.
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