I think the first step is to think of the situation being reversed. If you still do not see her point, then ask her about her feelings. If there are situations where you would feel it is controlling if it were reversed, try to think of ways of getting what you need without limiting her as much.How to deal with a wife that thinks you are controling when in deed you are not?
lol deal with her? That sounds very controlling. lol not talk to her. Really you might think you're not controlling when in fact you are. Try to see it from your wife's point of view.
What would make her think your controlling. If you have to know were she is 24/7 that is controlling. Talk to her about it just sit down only the two of you and discuss it, find out why she feels this way. It may be something easily remedied.
Go to couples therapy. Be open to the therapist when he/she says that you are controling. Get to the root of the problem - perhaps you aren't controlling but your wife feels that you are - communication is breaking down when she says you are controlling and you respond that you aren't. Something is making her say that...perhaps it's a cover for another feeling...maybe there are issues from her past....a therapist is an objective person that can tell you both what you are doing to contribute to this trouble....and she'll be more apt to listen to a third party say that you aren't controlling rather than hearing it from you.....
if you are not controling then why are you asking how to deal with her? leave her alone give her space to breath and let her do her own thing.
Vague...ask her why she thinks you are controlling.
Maybe something else is bugging her!
Find out what triggers her to say that. She may have some sore spots from her past in certain areas. Some people who felt like they have been manipulated by someone in the past have a tendency to react very sensitively to what they perceive as controlling behavior.
On the other hand some people do not know that they are controlling when they actually are...
my BF was very controlling, until we had a very intimate talk. in ur case, sit down and talk 2 her, calmly. she may (from personal experience) have something wrong that you may not have noticed. we can be set off by simple things. tell her you love her and come to a compromise, give each other space.
Deal with her... maybe you are controling... Deal with your own issues. Your wife is probable having a harder time than you are. You have no sympothy from me.
Ask her what exactly she needs, Boy friend, more money, going to shopping, take care of her in bed and so on. then tell me the answer.please
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