How to deal with a wife that won't admit she cheated.?

I am trying really hard to deal with my wife who will not admit she cheated on me. She shows me love and I am sure the affairs were just sex, but I can not get it out of my head. She will not come clean with anything and I'm not sure if that would even be best. It is so hard to deal with the anger etc (all the emotions) that I just don't know what to do. There is some good in our relationship, but I have to wonder what else is out there. Am I just being scared and stupid. Have I shattered any self esteem I may have had? It bothers me to no end.How to deal with a wife that won't admit she cheated.?
im so sorry for how u are feeling... he who has nothing to hide, hides nothing.... you deserve to be respected and loved for who you are... please dont stay with her until/when she comes up with the ENTIRE truth.... also see a councellor if at least for yourself to help you thru this process.. also you might want to find a church for some positive freindships.How to deal with a wife that won't admit she cheated.?
1st; how do you know she cheated. Do you believe she did, or did you see her or hire a private investigator. If you know she cheated you get her to admit it by confronting her with what you know, not assume, but actually know. If she will not admit it, and you just assume or strongly believe there is not much you can do unless you can prove it. If you feel you cannot trust her maybe you should leave. If you suspect she has been unfaithful because of your insecurities you need to get help, find a counselor or psychologist, or even a religious leader you may trust.
So your feelings are validity by her refusal to communicate--discuss the issue. Your self esteem knock out. Some good in the relationship!! Communication is the basis for relationships and particularly in marriage. Your choice counseling or a lawyer now. No delay now is the time. She will not listen put written posting on the refig door with choice--lawyer or counseling now.
You really need to take some time out.





You are torn apart and cannot be lucid.





You need time for yourself.





Get away and tell yourself not to think about her.





You will find out what you want.





If someone is tearing you apart you have to get their grip off of you to stop the process. When someone plays with your emotions they have you on a string. Let go. Get by yourself. Pretend that you are single but do not do anything.
You mention AffairS ...plural form. ,That's not a marriage . I would not tolerate that ,in a marriage so maybe you should leave it. Now , ask yourself this , is ...was , is your marriage over ? Only you know if you are strong enough to decide. I wish you luck because , if it is true somewhere you both lost something you will never have again, but what you may gain ,if you stay , could be worth more than you ever knew you had. Good Luck.
They wont admit it unless you have proof. If confront her with solid evidence, she will probably confess and then some still deny it. Maybe you should have a talk with her and tell her how you feel (only after you now for sure she cheated)
Im right there with you buddy. the truth is that we will never know, and even if they gave us every detail it would break our hearts even more. My **** happend about a year ago, i still get pissed once in a while, in the beginning i was sooooo mad, **** i bought hell on him. I wanted him gone so bad but i still loved him so much. I did dumb **** to make me feel better. it doesnt work, so i guess you just gotta wait it out and ask youself if shes really worth it.
HELLO, maybe she will not admit to cheating , because she has not cheated. Why are you looking for such an unhappy ending? Get it together, enjoy your marriage, before she gets sick of your nagging.
How do you know she cheated? Do you have proof? If you don't have that, then she will never come clean to you if she did cheat on you.
My husband cheated on me with one of the bridesmaids in our wedding a week before we were married. I found out about it 8 years after we were married. When I confronted my husband he denied it. I know better though! We are separated now.
its amazing that most of you who have answered wouldn't have asked a woman if she had proof or not.
just don't do anything for her for a couple of weeks and see what


happens.
Infidelity is always destructive, and often fatal, to a marriage. But it is possible to avoid allowing infidelity to bring a marriage to an end, however. Discovering the betrayal and anticipating the potential loss of the person most important in your life causes great distress. Unlike the trauma of death, which has an end and can be compensated for by positive elements in the relationship, infidelity undermines all that is good in the relationship and the pain seems to have no natural end point. Although not welcomed, death is to be expected at some point in a marriage. Betrayal is not. The victim of betrayal questions if the spouse ever loved them, and if so, what they might have done to lose it. It is as if the adulterous spouse has thrown dirt in the river of their marriage contaminating the water behind them and before them.


To recover from trauma, a victim has a natural tendency to go back to the traumatic experience, questioning, going over details repetitiously: “What did you do? Where? When? How often?” The traumatized spouse must go over the events until the emotional distress caused by them becomes manageable. They must reach a point where they feel there are no more surprises.


Often, the betraying spouse wants to get things over quickly, after admitting or not to their infidelity. They must develop empathy for what the betrayed spouse is experiencing, and be willing to live with the pain of guilt, until genuine healing can occur. In addition, the betraying spouse may learn something about them self in the questioning process. They may begin to see their own motives, vulnerabilities, and selfishness. If both spouses can tolerate and control the emotions involved, they may come to a joint understanding of how the infidelity occurred, signaling the beginning of a more substantial level of recovery. Recovery usually takes 1 to 3 years. Good luck.
Do you have proof? If not then how do you know she cheated. When I first got married my husband just knew I messed with this guy. Primarily because we got into this fight and I didn't go to this party he threw. And then his friend called and said he couldn't make it. Plus the guy wanted me but it was his friend and I wasn't gonna go there. Even though there was and attraction on both parts. There were so many times where it looked like I was with this guy and never was. It was just coincidence. He pressured me so much and he wouldn't drop it that I just said I messed with him before we got married. Do you know how many years it took us to get over that? You need to move on unless you have proof. Sometimes it could look one way and not be.
How... in the world do you know she cheated. What are you even talking about right here. You're sure the affairs were just sex. Is this the same wife who doesn't look as foxy as she used to, uh more like an elephant? JZ, buddy, do you want to like breathe in and out and get some oxygen right now? Do you want to maybe take it easy just a little bit, and realize that you can't just pin someone down without true knowledge, the SAME as if she tried to pin YOU down on some imaginary thing you did?





Are you scared? Of being alone maybe? You are thinking that maybe this woman doesn't see how wonderful you really are, and it's possible that you've treated her just a little lame at times, which scares you even more because what if she leaves, or something, so you look and seek and dig for a fault, what did she do wrong today, to feel better about how scared you are in the middle of your brain? It will erode you! It will eat you away, and you'll just get madder, and angrier, driving her away, and confirming your own fears, so that you can get even madder, blah blah blah. Don't sink! Don't drown in your own bullshit. Let **** go, man. LET IT GO%26gt;