Well call me a wimp but need advice on how to deal with my wife.we are going home to visit family.?

my cousin invited me to go out with him.well thats gonna be real hard to convince that her. i have no intentions of cheating,heck i dont even plan on drinking cuz i swore when my daughter was born i would no longer drink. we go through this every time we go home to visit. where she says things that make me guilty or says married men dont go with friends etc. like i said i have no intentions of doing bad things i just wanna hang with the guys for a night. we only come home like twice a year.am i asking way to much? is it wrong to wanna hang with the boys?Well call me a wimp but need advice on how to deal with my wife.we are going home to visit family.?
Stand up for yourself. You should DEFINITELY be able to spend a night, if not TWO with your buddies! Come on... does she honestly think she can be that controlling? Wow.





You are definitely not doing anything wrong and are definitely not asking for too much.





I'm not sure where some of these other people are saying you shouldn't go because your wife says you'll be cheating, or because she can't go. It's a guys night, and guys need their 'guy' time too. Tell your wife to take a pill and have some faith. Don't trust and marriage go hand in hand?





Sorry, things like this drive me crazy.Well call me a wimp but need advice on how to deal with my wife.we are going home to visit family.?
take your wife with you or don't go, you should'nt be going anywhere she can't go.
you need to grow up and be a MAN. your wife should not be telling you what you can and can not do. you are responsible for your actions. and if you step out there like that, (cheating, drinking etc.) than you must and will suffer the consequences of your actions. if you want to spend some time with the boys in the family than you should be able to without an argument. your wife is insecure and is very controlling and you are allowing her to treat your like a child. grow up you and her. GodBless
Why don't you let grandma babysit and all the adults get to go out. Then, guys split off and girls split off and bar hop around, meeting up at the end of the night. Then, your wife can have fun too.
No, it's not. She's the one with a problem. After years together she should know better. She might have a problem with jealousy, or control???
Get a spine, put your foot down, and tell her to stop biotching that twice a year y'all go home and twice a year you WILL spend an evening with your buddies. Period.





You've indicated no reason for her to have an issue with it unless you've given her reason not to trust you in the past...and she's just as welcome (or should be) to spend time with her friends.





Her idea that ';married men don't go out with friends'; is bs as there is absolutely no reason why married people cannot or should not go out with friends, as long as their behavior is appropriate and doesn't disrespect their spouse.
NO! Do not take your wife with you as the other weak people here have suggested. Tell her to sit her *** at home with the other women and leave you to spend some quality time with your cousin.





Be a man for once in your life, trust me she'd appreciate it!
I think its normal to hang out with your friends even after you're married. The husband with the guys and the wife with the girls. You need that once in a while. Does your wife ever hang out with her friends by herself? Try to explain this to her gently.
You are not single anymore, you are married. Why don't you ask your wife to come along with you instead of leaving her behind. So she can meet your friends as well. I can understand if your friends haven't seen you in such a long time, but there are other things to do like having a bar-b-q and getting together so your wife can be there too. Why go out with some friends at a club or party? Doing that is like going to try and get some bait!





It is not wrong to hang out with friends, but it is wrong to hang out with them at clubs or parties, when you know for a fact that there will be other single women there too.
You are married now. Your hanging out with the boys days should be over.
hand your wife a bottle of chill pills