Why am I insecure? How do you football wives deal?

This question is a little difficult to ask, because it makes me sound weak and insecure, but I need some advice. For some reason, I have a hard time trusting my fiance (and no this doesn't mean I don't love him), because of the types of friends that he has and because of his past. I have never caught him cheating on me, even though when we were first dating I had a few suspicions that were never confirmed and he made me believe his innocence by swearing on the bible and looking into my eyes...etc; Anyway, he played football in college and was and still is Mr. Popular. His friends now are NFL players and have reputations for being womanizers and loving strippers...paying them for 'favors' etc; While this doesn't mean (and I don't think my man does) that my man is guilty of anything...It still makes me feel insecure when he flies out to Miami to hang out with his friends. They are friends he's had since college and I don't want to keep him from hanging out with them. We have talked about it before and he guarantees me that he's happy in our relationship and isn't weak enough to do the kinds of things his friends do. So...I need advice on how to feel less insecure when he's in Miami for a week. What can make me think more positive? I'm not usually an insecure female and I have a lot going for me. I guess I just love this relationship so much that I fear something happening.Why am I insecure? How do you football wives deal?
i think you should listen to your inner voice. mine has never been wrong about a cheater. even when the evidence wasn't there.Why am I insecure? How do you football wives deal?
Well, there is no way to be sure what he's doing while he's with his friends.


BUT I think after you are married, there should be different expectations on him visiting his friends. You need to talk to him about going out maybe only a couple times a year and maybe you could go and half the time you guys do something together and half the time he's with his friends.
Have he every invited you to to fly to these place weather or not you wanted to hang with him or his friend. Or is there some kind of excuse think about it I know how you feel when you trying to tell your self something and it turns out later that you where wrong.
Birds of a feather flock together. I don't roll with cheaters because its wrong and that's not the kind of friends I want to have.
I have some swamp land to sell you..... Are you nuts? He's probably hanging with his friends and partying like they do.
A married person who has friends who dont respect their marriages are more likely to cheat themselves. Its proven. He should be spending time with more respectful and just all around good family guys now that he's married. Tell him if he wants to hang out with them you want to come to. Your obviously not comfortable with this and you shouldn't be. Im pretty trusting but this sounds bad and you should go with you gut which is obviously suspicious
he's flat out lying to you. What do you expect he is a sports celebrity. Women came easy for him all his life. He is popular and good looking so he takes advantage of that and the fact that his job lets him travel everywhere without you. If you wanted someone loyal you should never have married a football player or any kind of sports celebrity. Too many easy access to women who will do anything to be with these type of guys can't blame them. If I was a football player I would either stay single or cheat as well. Even if they have the best intentions they is just too much temptation around them that they will eventually give in. Go marry a geeky nerd and you will have a good chance of someone being loyal to you. You are letting the wolf guard the hen house. My advice marry his cheating *** but don't fall in love with him for a short period of time and get a divorce and take him to the bank. Serves him right for cheating. You never have to work again.
You can't really DO anything about it. Tell him you trust him, to have a good time, that you will be eager to see him when he returns.





Put your faith in yourself. If, and I mean, if something happens, you will hurt and be sad, but you will get over it.





Most people are insecure because they think ';omg, what will I do? I won't survive'; Hon, you will and you will go on and have a better life without him.





Men hate jealousy...you can't keep him from doing something if he has his mind set on it. But if you act insecure then this will turn him off.





Oh, and pray..God will guide you.
oooooooo. Girly, I see where you're coming from, but if he's hanging out with guys that womanize, while they're having all the fun, do you really think he just sitting back?





No, seriously, do you think he's saying, ';No thanks guys, I'm in love.';





They would rip him a new one! I doubt he will forfeit his manliness in front of his friends.





Your intuition is telling you something and you know it, you just keep trying to reason your way into believing he;s being faithful.





The worse mistake to make is second guessing your first instincts.
You're not being weak and insecure. You could throw the most trustworthy, sincere guy into a mix of friends like that, and be the most confident woman in the best relationship of all time...and STILL worry.





Guys are strong when they love their women, but friends who have a bad influence always try to hold sway by calling their committed friends 'pussy-whipped' or guilting the guy into submission. I have had this explained to me by boyfriends, ex-boyfriends, guy friends...it's some ridiculous guy 'code'. They go out with them, laugh with them, act like it's all great and then come home to their loving wives.





So, it's up to you to decide if you can stand it. The things you can do to be positive is to remind yourself of all the things you said here - he's never been unfaithful, you trust him and he was friends with these guys well before they were licking champagne off of strippers. Believe in him if he is worthy of it. :)

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