Is it really that big of a deal?

ok, so i'm married and i have a girlfriend. what is the big deal? my wife doesn't know and what she doesn't know won't hurt her. my girlfriend knows i'm married and doesn't care. my gf likes to get nasty and my wife, not so much. i'm successful enough that i can pay for my girlfriend to have a nice apartment downtown and my house in the burbs is paid for. the kids have everything they could want and them some. i really don't see what the big deal is. i have a couple friends trying to tell me how wrong it all is but seriously...no one is getting hurt and everyone seems relatively happy with the current situation. why am i the bad guy here?Is it really that big of a deal?
live and let live .. slowly try weening your friends out of what you do in your own time with your own life all are entitled to an opinion ... as long as its not repeated too often .. careful .. 464159868Is it really that big of a deal?
Everyone seems relatively happy? Would your wife continue to be ';relatively happy'; if you were to tell her about the mistress you keep in an apartment in town for wild sex romps that she won't perform for you? Do the kids have you full time or are you sometimes distracted and pulled away from them because of your need of wild sex with your gf? If you are, then they don't have everything they could want and then some...ya know, having everything doesn't necessarily mean just having materialistic things! And they don't have everything they need because eventually, and yes the truth generally has a way of making it out, when their mom finds out...they may not have an intact family anymore and you are willing to rob them of that for wild sex on the side? That money for your mistress could be growing in an account for your children's future instead of being wasted on your ho! So, yes, your selfishness is really a big deal....just ask your wife and see whether she thinks it's a big deal or not!
What your wife doesn't know, really can hurt her... What if your girlfriend has an STD that you don't know about and you take it home and give it to your wife? What if your kids find out that you're cheating on their mom? How do you think that will make them feel? Try to think of your family and not just yourself here!
Okay...let's look at it your way:


';I'm married and caught AIDS from the chick I cheated with. My wife doesn't know and it doesn't matter because what she don't know won't hurt her.';





Does that make much sense?





Unless you are psycic you have no right to determine what would hurt a person. That's the big deal.
i know several people who had fathers who did that many years ago and eventually it was found out and it hurt the kids.





however i must say, as the kids grew into adults they certainly learned to think about things, and it woudn't surprise me if they figured out that the woman was partially to blame.
OK, it is wrong first of all because you made a commitment to your wife!!! HELLO!!! I do not know why you think this is bad? Plus you wait something will happen and she will find out, or your GF will want more from you, or she will get pregnant and then you will be faced with that!! Just wait, tell you what, when that happens Yahoo us back and tell us your woes :)!!!
When you got married, you made a commitment to be with YOUR WIFE for the rest of your life. If you don't think your wife is ';nasty'; enough, than you need to tell HER how to satisfy YOU.








How would you feel if your wife cheated on you?
dude you're a tool. how would you feel if your wife had a guy on the side? My guess is your big male ego would get all offended and freak out. so why would it be ok for you but not for you. guys like you give the rest of us bad raps, you make me sick
U are the one whom think,there's no problem..in fact this is very unhealthy..even u can afford so..why do people out there gonna to get married...PROMISES...can u recall what have u swear when u got married..if u think this way is correct than i might as well tell people out there,dun need to get married and juz look for a lover will do...rubbish...
It is not a big deal to me. In fact i could care less what YOU do.





Since you do not understand ';what the big deal is'; and you probably never will, why would anyone even waste there time trying to explain the obvious to you?
damn, thats one lucky girlfriend - and one pitiful wife. if your okay with it %26amp; the wifey doesnt find out - you'll be alright, but eventually, the gf is gonna let your wife know. its just a matter of time. does the wife have a man on the side?
your a very not so nice guy. what if your wife was doing that to you. just end that girlfriend thing and tell your wife....... i wish i could tell on you, better....i wish your friends would tell on you
Your wife knows. Men are not the smartest at hiding. Just like you said, you have a lot of money so your wife is secure. Trust me, she's boning someone else too. Us women know how to play!
yes because yuor gf will get attached and become dependant on your$. . also you will get caught and you will have hurt everyone .
Long as you keep paying the bills who cares. And she's probably got a guy with a bigger schlong that's hittin it every other Tuesday.
If its not such a big deal then tell your wife. Lets she how much of a big deal it becomes when she leaves you and take everything you have!
if it isn't ';that big a deal'; why not just be open about your expensive hooker then?





(yes a hooker- $ in exchange for sex thats the def of a hooker)
Were your wedding vows a promise or just a bunch of words so you can claim a wife as a dependent?
The problem is that your world will come crashing down if your wife finds out about your double life.
what goes around comes around
What if it were your wife with the boyfriend? Would you feel the same then? It is betrayal to your spouse. Sad..
All it proves is that even idiots can get laid.
Because you're a troll.





Next question........................
ask your wife if its that big of a deal....
Sure it would be if she has a man on the.
To answer your question ,YES it is a big deal. Why don't you ask some other spouse's who got caught cheating. And by the way your wife will find out.We always do (never under estimate your wife).When she finds out and yes she will .She can and will take you for all you have.Lawyers love to drag adulterers through the mud.So enjoy your house in the burbs,and all your fancy toys because soon it will all be hers with child support and alimony.Right now you think no one is getting hurt,but you ARE hurting your wife beyond healing and in the end your children you so love will also be crushed.I thank God I have a wonderful husband who Truly loves me ,and would never think of hurting me the way you have chosen to hurt your wife. It would be easier if people who feel the need to cheat would leave the people they are going to cheat on Before they go through with the cheating!!! It will still hurt to have someone you love leave you ,but it will hurt less than being deceived and lied to.You owe your wife the world.You took a vow to love her,not love her only if she is nasty in bed.You should be ashamed of yourself.You have some very smart friends ,and you should listen to them.They are right. =0P
You are a bad guy because you do not love your wife. Do you have any idea what this would do to your wife and kids. It is only a matter of time before your wife finds out then your perfect little world will crumble around you. Plus you could be giving your wife some nasty STD, what happens if you get this slut on the side pregnant? It's because of selfish, lowlife bastards like you that women can't trust men. I hope your wife finds out, leaves you, takes your kids, house, cars and all your money and you and your nasty gf can live happily ever after. But wait do you really think that she will stay with you when her meal ticket loses everything?