BTW, I already did all the crap about being sweet and nice and romantic and the payout was never worth all the hoops so I said screw it. Now I drink and stay up late and find thing to amuse myself.
Odd thing is the more I ignore my wife the more loving she gets.
Why is it when you are nice they treat you like crap and when you ignore them they get all lovey dovey?How do you deal with a frigid wife?
Snack daddy i feel sorry for your wife she is missing out on one of the best gifts God gave husband and wife but you shouldn't drink yourself to death over a uncaring person.
A friend of mine treated her husband the same way and he killed himself by eating she would turn him down then go to sleep so he would eat until he was so over weight he had heart problems and died at the young age of 45 but he never cheated i say he died of a broken heart and what is sad is he was devoted to her, guess what she remarried and has sex all the time with her second husband and he is a piece of crap who has hit her cheated on her and basically if she say no when he wants sex he just takes it.
She has told me time and again she wished she had her first husband back and she feels guilty for treating him so bad i never say it to her but i think to myself KARMA btch KARMAHow do you deal with a frigid wife?
You need to put on some porn and knock one out in front of her !
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Frigid wife..............
Funny thing.
She often mentioned all those ex-Boy Friends with the libido that wouldn't quit.
Then the well-to-do married guys that needed ';someone to be close';.
There was even the comments about ';not measuring up';.
Suicide. When you're not good enough, why bother.......
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You don't ';deal'; with her, this is no attitude. It seems you need professional (psychological, sexological) counseling. You might already know there is no such thing as a frigid woman, there are only a pre-orgasmic women. Of course, it can easily happen your wife simply doesn't love you/isn't attracted to you.
Ask her.
She might not be ';frigid'; with other man, however the very idea enrages you.
When you say you find things to amuse yourself, you mean watching pornography? You know, this may make things worse; you may take for real the fake acts and expect them in your wife.
aww you're one of those nice guys that dumb women take advantage of...it's almost always like that...opposites attract...you're a nice guy and she's a total ****** cause she knows what a great man she has yet she treats you like crap...the more you ignore her the more she realizes that if she don't act up she'll lose you...i say do what you've been doing some more so she'll turn around and love you the way you love her...but make sure it's for good and not only cause you're ignoring her...cause believe me there are plenty of good women out there seeking a good man ;)
Leave her for another woman and explain to your wife that you tried to be romantic and nice and she wasn't responding to that. Since you already tried thats the best way. This is why poeple cheat because I strongly believe if you don't show back the affection a partner is giving you then get rid of it and cheat.Make sure she knows you cheated.
Sorry but it sounds like some underlying resentment on her part. A therapist may help, but more than likely just talking to each other (sans the cocktail hour beforehand) might give you some answers. Maybe she feels that you only want sex and being nice is the precursor.
And you're wrong about women having this need to be treated like dirt. I'm sure she's concerned that you're ignoring her and wants to know why, hence her response to your silence.
is the spark gone, how long have you been married? communication is the big key in any relationship. when you ignore woman they get upset and will nag you to find out what is wrong. apparently trying to find out what is wrong. one thing that doesn't help is to drink because drinking leads to alcoholism and other health problems. you have to also take care of yourself. this is not selfish. if nothing else works this may not be a good marriage for you. enjoy life, it's too short!!!!!!! :)
I would put the bottle down, I would get cleaned up,,,,,,,I would wait for the woman and do her in so many ugly ways that when ever she thinks about you she will get aroused. I would demand what I want and give her what she wants,,,,,,,It is a well know fact that if you do not use a muscle it will stop working. Get your groove on.....Good luck
dude i was in the same situation....i would ignore her and found things to amuse myself aswell...chat online...playstation etc. Just recently I found out that she doesnt feel the same for me and she confest that she had fallen in love with some one else....worst feeling ever..dont let her go if you really love her...
i'm not like that at all. the only thing i can think of is taht she feels it's getting really bad, so she tries to win your affections again, so you wont leave her.
drinking alot is not going to solve any problems; it will only make them worse.
They'll do anything to not lose you.
I'm in the same boat - don't have a guarantee that someone isn't going to be too tired once I'm done cleaning the whole damn house.
When you treat her well she doesn't bother trying, when you treat her like crap she is scared of losing you. If she loved you enough she would treat you better all the time!
Well, now that she is all lovie, try to wooh her and get into her panties.
Wait till she falls asleep then rub one out on her forehead!!!!
That is just the way some women are,,,,
sometimes sweet and romantic doesn't work... especially if it seems forced. I had a similar issue with my husband. He wanted more sex, i was rarely in the mood. His romantic was forced and awkward...so that didn't do it for me. He tried helping around the house, to lighten my burden... that worked a bit, but often i would use my extra time to rest. My biggest issue wasn't that I didn't want sex, it that with all of the daily issues and chores, my mind just wasn't on sex and I don't have the ';switch'; that my husband does. You say to him, wanna have sex and he's up and ready to go... i require more time to get hot and bothered.
We would talk about it often, ad nauseam, in fact. We finally figured out what works for us. We've been experimenting with a Dom/sub relationship. For me, it's simple... i never know what i have in store for me on any given and that keeps me thinking about it all day. I am very ready to play by the time the kids have gone to bed. Finally, for the first time, we are both very satisfied.
I'm not trying to suggest this is the way for you and your wife to go. i just think there has got to be some sort of compromise the two of you can reach. I assume the two of you have talked about this stuff? You said, what do i need to do to get you in the mood? She said, be more romantic? If you have not had a real and honest (and graphic) conversation, that should be the first step. Surely you can find something that works for you both!
Maybe you gave her too much sex and she got used to never having to ask, sometimes it's also nice for the women to be given the opportunity to do the chasing.
It is called perversionism.
minus the drinking, it sounds like you're making somewhat of a breakthrough with her.
Hey.. you know what, whatever works.
Your a jerk
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Do as I do. Tell her you can't force her to have sex nor can she force you to go without. Then go do every girl you can... problem solved.
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