That's a great example of a person overstepping her boundaries. You have every right to feel how you feel. She straight up came on the scene and tried to take over your life. What an imposter! How sad that she can't stand on her own accomplishments and she has to try to gangsta yours!
It isn't really your place to ';handle'; or not handle. It's really your ex's place. I'm guessing that's why he's your ex and you gladly passed the crown to Ms. Breadwinner.
It's always an option to passive-aggressively shut her down on your end by telling doctor offices and schools not to release any information to anyone but the PARENTS, which wouldn't include her.
You don't need a counselor. You need a bag of popcorn because she is entertaining.Help I am the ex wife dealing with the jealous new wife..How do I handle?
Honestly, she treats my children well and thats the only thing that has not gotten me to place a civil suit for impersonating me and defying HIPPA laws to get information on me and my children. My ex and I have a very cordial open relationship for our children. She will not control me! Hes whipped
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well technically if she is at the school function or whatever and she IS his wife then yes she has the right to be announced as the mother/father announcement and your ex husband is obviously spineless if he cannot tell his wife that you are the kids' mother.......and she has the right to call the schools and doctors etc... she is the new woman in the kids life that is ';taking care'; of them......but it is normal for you to be upset
She has no legal right as step mom to call your kids school or be included in notifications..you could sue a dr for giving confidential information and the school.
unless she personally (not gonna happen) gets a custody paper with her name she has absolute no rights as far as your kids are concerned.
You deal directly with your x..she has no right to talk to you if you don't choose to talk to her..picking the kids up has to be you or him,you don't have to give them to her if she shows up.
get some legal advice put her in her place..
It is normal for step parents to be included in announcements of any kind...Most step parents also take children to doctor appointments, sporting events, practices, etc. It seems to me that you are slightly jealous over this issue. Now if she is flat out being callous or trying to use the children, that is another matter. But it is good if the children can easily get along with step parents.
Depending on any court battles, you may not be entitled to any recognition.
But if this isn't the case, you may have to bring in someone who knows how to deal with these problems. Consider going to a counselor with the whole family, getting a lawyer, or maybe just calling in more of HIS family that's on your side as a back-up.
There are many options out there. Weigh the pros and cons, and pick one.
Don't take too long. Those kids grow up fast.
Sounds like the new wife needs to learn where her place is, she has no right calling the schools or doctors.....etc. She isn't being fair to you or your children. If you have had contact with your ex about this it is now time to bring in the lawyers. Question is he paying child support and does he have visitation?
well, if your ex-husband can't grow some %26amp; tell her that YOU are their mother, and she is their STEP MOTHER then you should put her in her place yourself. As long as you don't put your children in the middle of it, then someone needs to tell her that she doesn't need to be their mother...they already have one.
Not thst is not acceptable I had a friend go through this you need to file a complaint in court because anytime you exchange kids ect. to your ex or call him it has to be between you too only not her. In fact, you could make it to where she can't even show up to the events. I would sounds like she deserves it
She doesn't have legal rights to be calling the doctor's office but other than that you need to just get over it.
How is she the one who is jealous? She sounds pretty involved if you ask me.
He should be dealing with you. You should never have to deal with her. Ever.
You should tell the dad about the doctor and school and such, Maybe the ex is calling and checking in for the father who wants to be part of his kids life without haveing to deal with his ex. If your kids do not mind then its really not hurting anyone,
The new wife has the problem not you. I can't think of a scenario where they would be announcing both women as mothers it just sounds strange. The stepmother should accept her role and that is what she is a stepmother.
Your kinda jealous,she is in the kids life to deal with it.Step Mothers can be good mothers to.2 mothers and 1 dad taking care of a children can be a good team.
Only the woman who gave birth to and raises the kids should be announced. I believe that she is overstepping her boundaries as the stepmother and that she has 0 rights to be calling their care provider etc....
No I think your right you are the mother your not freaking out. But dont make it seems like it bothers you just take initiative and you be in charge. best of luck.
If your kids are ok with it, let it go to keep them happy. They are the ones who count.
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Sounds like you are the jealous one, not her.
well remember that the kids are important but don't be a puppet. show that you will not stand for it!
she doesnt sound jealous
Eric needs to shut his trap! Second of all you're not jealous. if she was rightfully deserving of the recognition then fine. but if its truly your hard work that went into the kids' acheivements, then put your foot down. shouldn't no ***** come in and claim what is rightfully yours and what you worked hard to accomplish. you're ex husband sounds like a wuss and needs to grow a pair of balls.
and for the record, she's not doing anything he doesn't allow her to do. and she just came into the pic as a stepmother. she wasn't there when you two were in bed making the kids so she needs to stay out of it unless she is really raising the kids 24/7.
It sounds like a sucky situation, but there really isn't anything you can do about it. The very best course of action, in my opinion, is to completely ignore her, and kill her with kindness if you must do anything at all. Everyone will know that she had nothing to do with raising your kids, but everyone will also hear about your actions and reactions to her, especially if they are negative. Let her fall on her *** by herself, without anyone being able to accuse you of pushing her over. Legally, she has a right to call the school/doctors/etc., and if your husband is okay with her being mentioned as part of ';the family'; in regards to your kids, then there isn't anything you can do - it's actually fairly common for that to happen. For better or worse, she's part of your kids lives now, and the best thing you can do FOR THEM is to avoid any extra stress or give HER any reason to try to mess with them as a way to get even with you.
And while I have no idea whether you ';need'; a counselor, they ARE really great to help work through issues. Trust me, I've been there too, and although I didn't think (and still don't think) I ';needed'; one, it definitely helped me get through some issues and move on.
Hope that helps!
yu can do nothing except to endure these things patiently.anyway tell yu husband not to be a puppet in her hands and ask him to take decision on any matter boldly and tell him to put her new wife interference and make yu happy.
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