How can I best help my wife deal with depression?

My wife has suffered for years with depression


lately it has gotten really bad. She is taking some antidepressant medication and may do some sort of hormone


therapy. Sometimes I get angry with her but I try not to let her


know. I don`t think its right but I get frustated sometimes.


I`ve worked so hard and things aren`t working outHow can I best help my wife deal with depression?
I'm assuming the antidepressant medication is a prescription, if this is the case, perhaps she needs to see a new doctor who can help her dig into the reasons for her depression, instead of just giving her a pill to pop. She needs some major counseling to go with the medication since it has gotten worse. Medication is supposed to help regulate and manage, not allow things to get worse. Talk to her doctor yourself, as much as doctor/patient confidentiality will allow, and if you are not satisfied afterwards, find your wife another doctor who can help her more. I don't blame you for getting frustrated some times, it's normal to react this way. Remember, you need to vent sometimes too and because of that, perhaps an occasional joint counseling session would help you both.How can I best help my wife deal with depression?
just be there for her...if she going thru the change she really needs you on her side. sounds like her meds need changed for her depression!
help her lose weight and take her away from the house more often. Do things with her. Tell her the truth.
Stay out of it. There is nothing you can do, of any use.
That's a tough one, if she doesn't want help she will not be receptive to your advise. Maybe you could look into a support group for yourself. You were not specific about what you have done to try and help her. Why don't you ask her what you could do to make her life better, i.e., helping around the house more or whatever she thinks would help pull her out of this rut. If she has a job that she is unhappy with , you could suggest ways that she could quit or find another job, or work out of her home. Maybe her depression is a result of something that is going on right now that has triggered this like the death of a loved one or some kind of loss. You should try to talk and listed to her, ask her why she thinks she feels the ways she is feeling. Then you can figure out what you can do to help her.
It is hard to see someone you love spiral down like that and the special problem with depression is that their apathy and indifference really start to get to you. It's hard to accept, bro but there really isn't anything you can do but just try and be there for you, which I bet you already do. It's OK to have your own emotions regarding this and anger is perfectly natural. It affects your life too. It's not just about her. Don't forget about yourself in trying to help her.


You can try and get her involved in things with you but don't be surprised if she won't go for it. But YOU should not avoid what you want to do just because she doesn't want to do it with you. That will just cause you to resent her. People with depression are very hard to live with. I know. Depression can also be ';contagious'; so don't forget to do the things you like to do, too.


I wish you luck with this. It isn't easy. If her meds aren't working, maybe she could try something else.
Patience, support, and trial and error to find the best psychologists/psychiatrists in your area! An educated and kind psychologist saved my life. May you and your wife be just as fortunate!
Being there for her may be the most important thing you can do. Its too bad but sometimes it gets to be too much and the healthy person decides distance is required to keep themselves sane. It happens. Don't beat yourself up if you are one of those people.
ask her whats wrong, and tell her comferting words, it worked when my girlfriend was depresed.
Just support her. Figure out what if any that she is depressed about and if you can fix it. But dont get frustrated with her.
Ditch the medication, sometimes they can depress people more than they are. Go to church. Point out her blessings. For instance: Having you by her side willing to help her through this, Being able to experience love. Let her know that life is too short and you both can enjoy it!!!! ';A family that prays together will stay together';
Sounds like you're dealing with it the best you can. Ask her if she'd be happier without you. You might be happier away from her. I hope you don't become depressed too. It takes two people to make a marriage work. You can't do it by yourself.
As the head of the house, be close to her and find out what exactly is the cause of her depression. Also know the nature of depression she is suffering from, is it emotional depression, psychological depression or a physical depression. Find the root of the illness and tell her to open up her mind to relate exactly what feelings of failure and disappoitment is she having in mind. Untill you find out the root of the cause of the illness, no medication will do the margic. Try and make her to laugh and be happy, take her away for a stroll and she her love and care she will certainly get it over.





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I suffered with depression for years and was on antidepressants and hormone therapy wheich was not enough....tell her to go get her thyroid checked out...they need to check her TSH and important to also check the antibody levels. This helped me TREMENDOUSLY!!!! Now that I am on thyroid meds I feel 100% better and my husband is happy again!
It's easy to say things aren't working out, but so hard to walk out that door. Before you do, you should explore all the possible options; couple's councelling works out great sometimes. Maybe You could get to the root of her underlying depression and help her that way. It's only human to get frustrated; lots of guys just walk out at the first sniff of trouble. You don't really want to leave her, or you wouldn't be online asking for help. It's important to remember that depression is actually a mental illness and so you as her carer (in a way) should seek help too. Partnerships are all about solving things together, and if you're wife isn't in much shape to do that, you could perhaps see a therapist to talk about your problems with. As for the anger? Get to your local boxing gym and vent! Nothing is ever so bad it can't be solved with a little thought and prior planning.
PLEASE! JUST STAND BY HER.


SHE IS DEALING WITH ALOT NOW. MAYBE YOU SHOULD GO TO HER DOCTOR WITH HER AND DISCUSS SOME OPTIONS FOR YOU.


SUCH AS: IF SHE IS SEEING A THERAPIST, YOU COULD GO TO AN APP. W/HER.


CALL YOUR LOCAL ';SOCIAL SERVICES'; AND THEY WILL DIRECT YOU TO THE BEST ALTERNATIVE FOR YOU.


ALSO::::: YOU'RE A GOOD HUSBAND FOR WANTING TO HELP YOUR WIFE, INSTEAD OF COMPLAIN ABOUT HER!


WE APPRECIATE MEN LIKE YOU!
Hi it is great that you have been there for your wife, you could take her back to the doc as being on the same type of medication for a while quite often needs to be reassessed and changed. You might think well the doc should know that but sometimes doctor's can just plod along giving your wife the same medication.


You need some time for you, and probably could do with some counselling, you are only human and it is easy to get frustrated sometimes because what seems so upsetting to your wife might be so trivial or stupid to us.also if you both love each other and want to make the marriage work you both need to get some counselling not just you.


Good luck.
Get some counseling yourself as dealing with depression can be a strain on the patient and their support structure. Best of luck.