How does a wife deal with a workaholic husband?

I have been married to my husband for almost three years. He is 33 and I am 30. We have two kids. We both work but I only work part-time at a school. My husband is a lawyer and he does provide us with a nice living. The problem is he a total workaholic. He wants to make partner in a few years so every day he goes in the office at 7:00 am and rarely comes home before 9:00 pm. He works every other Saturday and brings work home on Sundays. He rarely does anything with the kids and does absolutely nothing around the house.





What has pushed me to the brink is he forgot our oldest's birthday last week. When I confronted him, he shrugged it off and said our child would not care because ';mommy'; still remembered.





What should I do? I admit I like our standard of living but I do not know if I can stay married to a man I see a few hours a week.





Oh, our sex life sucks too. Difficult for a guy to get aroused when all he does is read legal crap.





ThanksHow does a wife deal with a workaholic husband?
Do not worry. My hubby is a worka holic too. He has to go to court tonight and I made him a nice dinner. He is a busy attorney and he loves my sense of humor and my job is to make sure he is on time. We laugh together at the end of the evening. He loves my stupid gossip. put on a little sexy lingerie and have fun. Next week I have a fun surprise for my hubby. SEXY LINGERIE!!!How does a wife deal with a workaholic husband?
This is from the guys prospective of coarse, but don't constantly nag at him he is clearly working hard to provide a living, try to keep the house clean and not constantly bug him about the children when he gets home, plan some stuff out on weekends and get him to stop working on saturdays, also have a calender in a common location with important dates YES including your aniversery b-days ect, adventually his job will settle down
Try to get him to counseling to improve your communication (both of you). He needs to know that you're not happy and you need to know why he is disconnected from his family. I hope it works out for you. It's hard being a single mother when you're married.





I've had several friends who went through the same thing. Big houses, SUV's, schools for the kids, nice vacations, etc. But, the men were so wrapped up in their jobs they never spent time with their kids and the wives (some) had affairs. Too bad.
hi, move on... forget the lifestyle it means nothing if he isn't there emotionally for you or the kids.. Kids need alot more love than money, remember if he is only 33 he isn't going to stop working long hours if he makes partner.. Life is too short for all that crap.. Move on take your kids and get a new man..



Be thankful. If you want more time show him you don't care about partner, drop expenses move in a mobile home and get a used Toyota Corolla so you don't need collision.





But the whining is stupid, save that for a responsible idiot that don't work.















I think you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel tell him straight. Don't talk and feel bad. Tell him how you feel and talk to the kids and have them talk to him too. Good luck!
i was married to a tow truck driver so i totally feel your pain, hopefully it works out better for you then it did for me. But at least your husband makes good money at it. Good luck
Sounds like he needs to get his priorities straightened out. Why don't you get him to sit down and watch The Adam Sandler movie ';Click'; with you and the kids.
YOu are so right that this is not acceptable. It's undersatndable that hewants to get ahead - but at what price? I have heard so many men in their 50's look at their grandchildren %26amp; suddenly realize what they missed with their own children growing up - when it's too late to fix it. The parent-child relationship may be irreparably damaged - and so may the marriage. A lonely spiuse is a vulnerable one. You may not intend to leave him or cheat on him now - but how many years of loneliness can you tolerate?





He needs to realize that money %26amp; power are not everything. Years from now on his deathbed he will not be surrounded by grateful partners or clients thanking him for all the years of work. He should be surrounded by a loving wife %26amp; family - but will they care enough to still be there or will he be all alone? There is an old song that begins with The Cat's in the Cradle with a silver spoon %26amp; has a repeated chorus of WHen you coming home dad? I don't know when but we'll get together then... it continues until the son grows up %26amp; as dad is alone %26amp; aging he realizes he will not be seeing his grown son because he's not there for dad just like dad was never there for him. I think Jim Croce sang it but I'm not sure. It really sends a good message to all workaholic men.





You need to tell your husband you need marriage /family counseling. IF he won't go, you go alone - he can afford it! You can't let this go on much longer or you will be living like this forever - and that's no way to live!
Perhaps your husband works these hours so as to maintain the nice lifestyle you and the kids enjoy. You admit you like your comfortable lifestyle. Well, it comes with a price. Is it worth it however? You have to make that decision. If he cut back on the hours it would mean more time with you and the family but perhaps less of the luxuries.


More time for sex, but less money for all the little extras you've come to enjoy. You have to decide. If you decide for more time with him and the family, then let him know how important it is to you and that you are willing for him to sacrifice the money for quality time. I think it's a good exchange. Good luck!