How to deal with a wife that had an affair on you twice and one what she calls just had sex with once!?

Been married 24 years and lived together for 5 years before that.So 29 years together and love her so much. I know most people would have said enough along time ago , but i'd really like to make it work . Problem trying to trust again ,if i ever can!How to deal with a wife that had an affair on you twice and one what she calls just had sex with once!?
Realistically you will not ever trust her again,


so the choice is more on how you live with it and what you can do to build your own morale so that you no longer care about it.


1 time cheating it could be a mistake, 2 times hmmmm very unlikely to stop, 3 times, you just gave her permission to do whatever she likes. Good luck and hope it doesnt get you down too muchHow to deal with a wife that had an affair on you twice and one what she calls just had sex with once!?
I think its time to cash in your chips my friend because she obviously isn't into you.Marriage is a scared thing and how fair is it to you that while you were keeping true with your vows and honoring her she was out sleeping around and making a mockery of those same vows?





just sex? last time I checked if you have any form of sex while you are married is still considered cheating.





sorry bro but it looks like to me its


strike one


strike two


strike three





shes out!





I know its hard because you been with her for so long but you need someone who will Cherish you and stay true to you, love you. there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Once a victim, twice a volunteer. She has no respect for you or your relationship if she continues this behavior. It's a pattern, not an incident. WHY do you think you deserve to be treated this way? What is so fabulous about this woman that you are willing to continuously forgive her for sleeping w/ other men -- an activity that you have not agreed to and puts you in the line of fire for an STD at least and HIV/AIDS at worst?





You deserve better. You can't trust her. PERIOD.
You want to make ';it'; work. I presume you are talking about your marriage. Well, you can't make it work by yourself. It takes two to make a marriage work. Obviously, your wife is not interested in the same things you are. Definition of insanity: doing the same thing expecting different results. Its time to try something different. Its up to you to decide what that ';difference'; will be.
Try marriage counseling. Honestly though if a partner has one affair that is maybe forgivable but doing it more than once...that's a bit questionable. If you really want to make it work you are really going to have to try to convince yourself that she wont do it again. It will be really hard but if that's what you want so be it.
Really wish I could give you something more encouraging, but if this kind of thing has happened three times... I don't really see how you can. It hurts, but you might just want to cut your losses if you have been faithful you deserve someone who will do the same.
well you need to find the root of your problem , why did she cheat? im not trying to offend you but most people cheat because they arent getting what they need at home regardless if its sex or just a closeness. have you thought of counseling. does she want the marriage to work.
Since she's a serial cheat, you're obviously willing to spend the rest of your live in a marriage that is not built on trust. You deserve better and trust me, it feels much better to love someone who is as faithful as you've been.
nope how can you trust cheater??? deep down inside you can not really love her, you just think you do... but my gosh once okay but twice that is so sad for a man to put up with that! Titan the belt buckle! And stand up and have respect for yourself!!!
You staying with her makes it seem like you don't mind. If she did it twice(that you know about) she will do it again.She doesn't care much about your feelings. As hard as it maybe I would say you should move on.
Well, if i were you i would dump her sorry ***.if she is having sex with diff. guys shes honestly already lost her magic spark that faded a long time ago. Go on e Harmany and Get here back. Maybe she will be Jelous and Stop. Hope i helped. I tryed.
Once can be a mistake.





Twice isn't.





And ';just sex'; is still an affair.





I'm surprised you've given her three chances, but if SHE isn't willing to make the change to HERSELF, there's nothing you can do to force her to.
at this age in your life (no offense)it might be hard to find someone, especially with the trust issue you are battling with. sometimes its better to be single and do what the hell you want!!
if you can handle the fact that she wants to be with other men, then be happy. as long as she puts you first, and she makes sure that no feelings evolve with another man, then sex is just sex.
Dude you are an enabler and a glutten for punishment. Either dump the whore or enjoy your miserable life.
Get rid of her...she will never change....She doesn't love you or care about you ....